About

I’m 62 years old and finally decided to get sober.  I’m a wife, mother, grandmother, dog lover, etc…  I went to high school in the late 60’s and college in the 70’s so I used to know a lot about sex, alcohol and marijuana.  I was really mousey and afraid so I didn’t smoke much weed.  I quit smoking cigarettes at 30.  Quit drinking for good on July 28, 2013.  I’m still having sex.  Well, I said I was a product of the 70’s. This is what it’s like to behave like and think like you’re 45 trapped in a 62 year old body and saying no to wicked wine.

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  1. I have really enjoyed reading your blog. You write really well. I am new to the blogging community (28 days sober) and have really found a lot of comfort in reading all the different stories. It is amazing to me how much we all have in common no matter how many years we have between us or how different our backgrounds are. It is nice to have a group of people that GET it.
    Thanks for writing 🙂

  2. I’m trying to quit–yet again. To read your blog entries gives me hope. I am 59; I feel like if I reach 60 and haven’t stopped, I never will, and I do NOT want to live the rest of my life with the chains of alcohol around me neck.

    So, thanks.

    Alice

  3. I got sober at 55 and just celebrated my 60th STILL SOBER and headed toward a 5th birthday one day at a time … WE can do it together, get older, be old and be sober. Here’s a hand, circle up ladies, we got this with the help of a higher power and the sweetness of GRACE.

  4. good for you!
    I got sober at 57 and just turned 60 in August….so grateful!
    Life is so much better sober, and I’m glad there are other older bloggers out there!

  5. I am so glad I found your blog. You remind me of me! My husband has a theory that you’re only as old as when you felt the best in your life. For me that means I’m a 52 year old who will be perpetually 35. Works for me.

    And you look AMAZING! Rock on Grammy!

    Sherry

  6. I thought I would contact you via comment as I don’t have your email. I have also given up the drink, and written about it that you may relate to. The book will be free for download on Amazon on Sunday 26 Jan 2014. Check it out if you would like. It is called Between Drinks: Escape the Routine, Take Control and Join the Clear Thinkers. http://www.amazon.com/Between-Drinks-Routine-Control-Thinkers/dp/1922237957. I enjoyed reading your blog. Regards David

  7. Oh Jesus! I turned 60 on Monday, drank my way through three days of “celebration”. (I have Tues, Wed, and Thurs. off from work. Today, I woke up so hung over, and I “binged” tired of thinking about drinking. At this very moment, I want to get into my car and go get the liter of cheap wine. But I will chew the legs off the table before I do that. Congratulations on your sobriety! I hope I make it to Day Two.

  8. Thank you very much for your blog. New to being sober (41days) after drinking for 30 years. Will turn 50 this summer. Hated the hangovers and what I was doing to my health. Tried to quit twice before, once with AA but I didn’t connect much with that. Sober blogs make me feel like there are people (especially women) out there who are just like me. So wonderful. I write to ask if you can tell me the name of the app you refer to that counts the days since you’ve stopped? I think that would be nice to have on my phone. And in return I wanted to tell you about an app I found called Rebos Neighborhood. Thought of you when I saw it since in one of your blogs you mentioned wanting to find sober people to have a cup of coffee with or something. This app looks like it may be that. Good luck and thanks!

  9. Hi, I turn 60 in 27 days. When I turned 50 I decided to eat right and take better care of myself. I lost 100 pounds and started working out – but I never gave up the booze – mostly wine chased down by a good amount of vodka too! So, for 60 i decided I need to be sober – dieting is a whole lot easier. After multiple false starts I am now on day 31 of sobriety. Oh the joy of waking up sober – that doesn’t mean that it is still not a challenge everyday. The blogs I read are a huge help. I do some face to face meetings with Women for Sobriety and they help but the blogs are here everyday and I see myself in so many of them. It is good to know I am not alone and there are so many of you just like me struggling to stay sober and continue to LOVE LIFE!

  10. How great to come across your blog. 60 year old who is battling the bottle and has been for the past 40+ years. Managed to stop for 18 months in my 40s but then fell into it again. It’s miserable, I hate it but only seem to be able to do a few days and then after a stressful day at work (or any other reason) its like there is no memory of the not wanting to drink and off we go again. Only a matter of time before my work nails me. Your blog has given me hope as I was certain that I am the only 60 year old woman with a drink problem in Auckland, NZ. Not having much luck in finding support. Take care…

    • I am relating to everyone here,especially you Chrissy .You nailed it………that’s exactly what happens to me.I managed to stop when I was pregnant for 9 months twice and then another 6 months when I was about 55 and the occasional January free month because my children were doing it.I am now 64.I am on day 50 wine and gin free and battling the ‘here we go again’ when the next life crisis hits me,which it will inevitably do.I feel very close to you all and will take strength from your sobriety.Thankyou for this blog ❤️

  11. I am almost sixty-three. Had 4 years of sobriety; I was (loosely) involved with AA, nearly 25 years ago. I have been trying over and over to quit since then, it’s tough as my partner drinks, often a bottle of wine over an evening. It’s hard to be sober, listening to a tipsy person talk and talk!

    I can’t get back into that program, it doesn’t ring true to me. Plus, many AA people I used to know shunned me after I had been remiss for awhile! It’s hard, as I always start out drinking having fun, never know how it will go. And we live in a warm place where people greet the sunset with wine/cocktails/booze. I love these blogs, and you are so down to earth. I have been wondering if it is just too late, but I am going to give it another go. Thank you! Bev

    • well I’m 63 and have almost 1 month I went into rehab in 1992 so over 6 months now starting a liver again like you I did not care for a day much cmo stories opinionated people and counselors otter just recovering alcoholics nonetheless it’s a place to start a well I’m 63 and have almost 1 month I went into rehab in 1992 so over 6 months now starting a liver again like you I did not care for AA much same stories opinionated people and counselors just recovering alcoholics nonetheless it’s a place to start I suppose. Hang in there Bev. T

  12. Hi Sharon,
    I don’t know if you will see this. I’m just getting used to reading blogs BUT I just wanted to say that you are an angel from on high. The 70s being considered. I am 62 and will be 63 in January. I have been thinking about finally stopping my alcohol (heavy consumption) after 30 or so years of the stuff. Then lo and behold–here is your blog through the link from unpickled. I have been dragging my feet but you have honestly drop-kicked me into starting position. I live across the pond in Michigan. I found so much hope in your last post. I even cried. I identify so SO much with what you say. I’m even hoping that sex with the husband might return–not all my fault, but maybe sober I can be a better influence somehow. We will see. Anyway I am thing WTF!! Your blog came at the exact time I needed it and I just had to tell you.

  13. Wow great blog and so honest. I too am fighting this thing and closing in on 60. I will be reading this blog regularly – thank you

  14. Hi! So enjoying your blog. I will be 60 in 39 days. I am on Day #5 right now and plan to enter my next decade totally sober. It’s the only healthy, safe, and sane thing to do… I want clarity of mind to experience my life (finally!) … Coming across your blog is a great accidental “find” today, I think it will be one I return to often… Wishing you much strength and happiness. Thank you for sharing your story!!

  15. I’m 55… been drinking a bottle of wine a night around 5 days a week for around 15 years and regular drinking before that. I have had numerous months/weeks off and don’t find it difficult but always fall back into bad habits. Just had 32 days off and had a blood test during that time which showed still elevated GGT (70) and ALT (36) levels. I had a few things on in the past week since my 32-day break, and had my usual bottle of wine and now feel stupid. I’ve had gastritis for 2 years and now even wonder if I can feel liver pain. An ultrasound last year showed no damage but I’m so sick of wondering if every health issue I suffer is related to alcohol. If I stop for good then I’ll never have to ask that question. This is it – crunch time… line in the sand. I’ve got two amazing long-awaited holidays coming up so the temptation is to say “I’ll stop after…” but we all know there’ll always be something to “stop after…” so today is the day. I know I am able to stop drinking whenever I want… but I always have an end-date. Not this time. I need to stop compromising my health… I pretend I’m not but I know I am. 5 August 2018 – the date I stopped being an idiot.

    • Aug 10 2018. First day of the rest of my life. I’ve been drinking for 40 years. I can use all the help I can get!

      • Very good luck to you. Sounds like we’re on the journey together. Can I suggest – download a “sober counter” app to your phone (there are heaps of free ones). It’s really motivating. It tracks how many days sober, how much money you’ve saved, how your body is healing… Sounds stupid but I can’t wait to open it day after day to see those numbers improve. 🙂

    • I am finding it really uplifting to know that I am doing this with no end date. Whenever I had time off before, it was like I was wishing my life away while I wasn’t drinking… just waiting for “d-day” (whatever end date I’d set) to come around so I could have wine-o-clock again. I am motivating myself by waking up every day (feeling great) and thinking about all the things I can do that day, and how that day is special. What are the things you don’t do when you drink? I don’t read books, because by the time I get into bed, tipsy and tired, I can’t make sense of a story. Find a good book and start reading it. Did you ever do art or make things? I’ve just gone out and bought a watercolour pad, paints and sketching pens. I’m not very good but I just started drawing again. Get tips online and throw caution to the winds. Perhaps you used to play a musical instrument? Pick it up again! Life is a gift and we’re all getting old and sooner or later it will all be over… use this new-found sobriety to do things you never thought you’d do again. xo

    • If you go back to the beginning of my blog you’ll learn about lots of the supports I used. Belle at Tired of Thinking about Drinking, Mrs. D. Jean, at Unpickled and I read blog, upon, blog, upon blog. Alternate sweet drinks during witching hour and a attitude that I was finally going to kick the ass of the beast in my head. You’ve made it to day 5, that’s good, those first few are bitches.
      Sharon

      • Day 10! reading your blog in its entirety got me thru days 1 and 2. i’ll be forever grateful. thanks for being there. knowing someone is out there helps- a lot! found on a new sweet drink which also has helped. for now I’m reading and learning and believing!

  16. mmelendez64 you are amazing! 10 days is just great. How’s your app going? I’ve saved over $200 already. 🙂 I’ve passed up 66 drinks. 66! What a waste. All that junk going into my body with no nutritional value and with the potential to do lots of damage. Just picture all your cells functioning properly and cleanly. Your body is so grateful. 🙂

    • Day #30 Holding on and feeling well. Check my app every day. Got through Labor Day weekend and here come the holidays! I will keep reading and believing-

  17. I’m Day 78 now still check this blog as it was the first one i read and got me thru those first few days. AF is my way now and I just want say thanks! Will continue to check! Happy AF Halloween! 💟

  18. 100 days sober today! Thanks again for your blog which was the first I read and attribute to saving my life. AF upward and onward. As always-one day at a time.

  19. Day 250 and the journey continues…. I can see my life now without alcohol in it! It wasn’t easy but so worth it. If I knew then what I know now. Thanks Sharon, for being there when it mattered most!

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